The original post was accompanied by the picture of a woman kneeling with hands clasped in front of her and knees together, but I believe this is a better format to more clearly state my meaning: Looking at the woman, she seems a bit embarrassed/uneasy, but still maintaining the submissive position. Myself, as many who read me know, I like her to be kneeling with head bowed, arms behind her back, and knees apart so her pussy remains exposed. If her Master wished, he could simply stand in front of her in issue this order and she would very likely comply; lesson over, right? No, not even close.
Training never ends; it is an integral part of the D/s relationship. For me personally, it is one of the most sensual, binding, intimate acts a Dominant can do with His submissive (Often it’s a guy’s attitude to tell her ‘something’ and then she does it, and he’s satisfied, likely turned on a bit, has sex with her, great, and so on). However, from her perspective, each order/rule/demand has a much greater impact. If you’re a man, and you REALLY want to control and possess her, then you need to show her who and what you really are.
For example, walk up to her, don’t say a word, touch her head, hold her hair and move her head to the bowed position. Then, adding an intimate element, make sure you’re standing as close as possible to her, so she can feel how close you are, and use your foot to nudge her knees gently apart (you could reach down with your hand, but I prefer a more Dominant ‘standing over her’ position at this point), until they’re apart about shoulder width. Stay in contact with her, make sure she’s looking directly down at her knees, hold that position for a few moments and just enjoy the intimacy and closeness between you. Then move behind her, still holding her head (constant physical contact is important). She doesn’t know what you’re going to do next. Bend down and put your face next to hers, just put your cheek against hers intimately, let her feel the roughness of your stubble, still having your hand holding her head. Take your free hand and grasp her left wrist; move it behind her and hold it there. Then, switch hands holding her head (while having hold of, or contact with her head can be a powerful physical and emotional control point), and bring her other hand around to her back. Again, holding it there a few moments, your cheek still against hers. Now whisper in her ear, “don’t move.” Slowly stand up and move to your preferred sitting or standing Dominant position in front of her, and tell her, whenever I speak the word ‘pillow’ (I have a large pillow situated in the bedroom and one in the living room that are for her), you come here, and assume this position. Now look at me; do you understand?”
The difference in time between simply issuing an edict of your wishes, and going through the intimate, physical manipulating to show her, was about 5 minutes of extra time. To anyone looking to train your sub, this small amount of additional time (and effort/planning on your part) spent with her can be some of the most rewarding, binding, and special moments that will truly bring out the depths of her submissiveness for you now and in the future. Note: I’ll state the obvious and mention that of course this is not going to be done for every little detail, like telling her you prefer two sugars in your coffee instead of one. However (whipping, spanking, bondage, sex, etc., aside), if you really want her to know your mind, and really feel like you two have a special and unique bond, this is how you let her into ‘your world’ and make her a part of that world she’ll never want to leave. ~MasterRandyPaul~